Baseball legend, Yogi Berra, was as well known for his words of humor and wisdom as he was for his playing expertise. When reading some of best quotes the other day, I thought how much they applied to being single. Attitude is everything, and Yogi adds a little illumination in just the right spots. Take for instance:

"This is deja vu all over again."

Have you ever felt like you are repeating some old patterns? Do you feel like you have been down a certain dating road before but don't know how you got there? Deja vu all over again is repeating and repeating yourself and that's fine if it brings you what you want. But when you are stuck, can't find the person you want to be with, and you keep doing the same things getting the same results, it's time to stop and look at your repetitive behavior.

"When you come to a fork in the road--take it!"

Do you have trouble making decisions about where to go and what to do when you get there when it comes to dating? The wisdom behind this quote is, don't stand there thinking about it too long--just do something. Whatever you decide to do will be better than doing nothing. Whether you take one road or another, you are going to learn something along the way, and you are going to meet people on your journey. Stay open and in charge of yourself, and get on down the road. Someone waits for you.

"You couldn't have a conversation there--everybody was talking."

He's right. It is very hard to have a conversation in a noisy place. So when you do meet someone you want to get to know better, choose a place that allows you to be able to talk at length without a huge amount of background noise. Loud music and noisy people can make it impossible to connect with someone. Try a picnic, lunch on a park bench, a walk through a garden, or a quiet restaurant you have checked out first.

"It ain't over 'til it's over."

This is my favorite. I remind my clients of this one every day. You aren't too old, too smart, too uneducated, too sophisticated, too shy, too fat, too thin, too country, or too city to meet someone. It is never too late to meet the love of your life. It ain't over until you say it's over, so any time you want to get back in the game, the world is waiting and ready for you.

Yogi shares his thoughts and wisdom in an honest, unsparing way. His often quoted words cause us to stop and listen to what we say and what we do that keeps us stuck in thinking there is no one out there.

He's right--it ain't over 'til it's over.

Tonja Weimer

Tonja Evetts Weimer is a Master Certified singles relationship and life coach, speaker, syndicated columnist and author.

Tonja is a full time professional coach with a practice in Greenville, SC. She helps individuals, especially singles, re-craft their lives and find happiness and success in their career and relationships. Some of Tonja's professional activities include:

==> Syndicated singles relationship columnist, writing SAVVY DATING, a weekly column read by over a million readers in many U.S newspapers. Tonja's column addresses relationship and life issues of interest to all adults, but particularly to the over 110 million singles in the U.S. Tonja has also had articles published in New Woman, Hope, and House Beautiful magazines, and has won 3 Matrix Awards for her writing.

==> Motivational speaker, Tonja has been a keynote presenter at national and international conferences over the last 30 years.

==> Author of materials for educators and parents (7 books, six music albums and 2 videos), which have won 22 awards.

Some Speaking and Media Highlights:

==> Keynote speaker for 2004 Women?s Issues Network Conference, Sumter, SC.

==> Keynote speaker for 2002 Parents as Teachers International Conference, St. Louis, MO.

==> Keynote speaker for 1999 International Conference for Children & Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder.

==> Keynote speaker for 1998 European Education Conference, in Mannheim, Germany.

==> Keynote speaker in 35 U.S. states at educational conferences.

==> Presenter at the International Special Olympics in Notre Dame, at the request of Eunice Kennedy Shriver.

==> Created Space Songs for Children, at the request of NASA (album taken into space by astronauts three times.)

==> Appeared on CNN?s Showbiz Today and many other TV shows.

Educational and Professional Qualifications:

==> National Fellow (U.S. Dept. of Education.) M.A. in Human Development and Education, with an emphasis on creativity.

==> Master Certified Singles Relationship Coach, Relationship Coaching Institute.

==> Personal Life Coach, Graduate, Institute for Life Coach Training.

==> Member, International Coaching Federation